Human or bot? Friend or foe?
Manipulation
An expert works with text with different emphases, but the most popular is manipulative. Pressure is formed when the opponent intends to overcome your will and persuade you to do what he wants. The following words and expressions are used for this purpose: “I don’t believe you,” ‘you really don’t want to do it,’ ‘you’re making everyone think that,’ ‘do it,’ ‘do it and that’s it,’ ‘everyone says so,’ ‘don’t start again,’ ‘that’s just a reason not to,’ ‘you’re doing it on purpose,’ ‘you’re just saying and not doing,’ ”I don’t believe you’ll do it anymore.”
In this way, the person forces you to either obey or emphasizes that you cannot be trusted, and puts pressure on your weaknesses that he or she has noticed over time (or simply uses classic phrases that are effective in most cases of manipulative communication).
Quite often, men use these manipulations with women they don’t know well. Women, on the other hand, use this type of pressure on the contrary – only towards those with whom they are well acquainted and know for sure that it will work at least 70% of the time and cause discomfort and subsequent pain to the opponent. Such communication is considered abusive. You are simply being morally destroyed as a person, forced into action and energy and emotional slavery.
Humiliation.
In such correspondence, the following phrases are often heard from one side (the humiliator): “if only you were like”, ‘those are real men/women, and you are’, ‘you are not enough’, ‘if she/he was, then’, ‘you overestimate yourself’, ‘I think you are wrong, as always’, ‘a person like him/her can do it, but you cannot’, ‘well, you are not her/him’, ‘look how it should be’, ‘remember, this is how it should be’, ”are you capable? ”, “not cool for you?”, “you have to earn it”. Thus, when humiliation begins to emotionally capture the opponent, the person reacting to it experiences energy breakdowns. This kind of communication is considered toxic, making the opponent a victim and causing psychological problems.
Communication in the “emoticon” style
One of the most popular styles of communication in correspondence is replies in the form of icons. Whether it’s a heart, or some drawings, or a thumbs up. It’s great when a person inserts some emoji into their correspondence, but if your communication consists of only such icons, it subconsciously implies that the person believes they dominate you and do not take you as a serious, let alone equal, opponent.
Silence in response
There is a style of communication, or a stage of communication (!), when a person does not respond to your messages. This is outright manipulation. This attitude cannot be considered adequate, equal, and mutually respectful. The person is looking at your messages, you are sure that they received the text, but they are silent. They are silent long enough for you to realize that they have read the text and are expressing their position towards you by not responding. A person who does not respond to messages considers the situation to be exhausted, and you owe them a favor (they are doing you a favor by reading your messages, but you do not deserve a response, because in their opinion, it is too much). She is not in the mood to consider your relationship equal. Don’t be under any illusions.
It’s not a temporary game or an insult, it’s a comprehensive attitude. The decision made concerns you. Also, ignoring in some cases is a means of pressure, aggressive behavior, and arrogant attitude. Therefore, you should automatically question communication with such a person. If a situation occurs in which you are ignored, you should conclude that this person is not worthy of your trust (there may be a situation in which he or she will let you down), cooperation (unreliable and inconsistent), or investment of your time (either in general or already). In addition, ignoring is an unwillingness to understand (the person does not assume that there is a mistake in their perception, and ignoring is not a correct demonstration of their personal intentions). And the reluctance brings you back to the realization that any initiative to resuscitate this communication automatically becomes pressure from your side.
In fact, correspondence is a great source of information that gives us an understanding of the kind of person we are dealing with. This is a fairly complete psychological portrait of a person (even if we have only a few print screens of correspondence), on the basis of which we can draw up a complete profile and understand what risks we face from communicating with this person, what their weaknesses are (what they are protecting), what their goal is in communicating with you, and whether you need this communication in a format chosen only by them (playing on your field in their game).
Profiling includes a text analysis service. In correspondence, an expert profiler analyzes everything that your opponent meant, their way of thinking in general, their emotions, and their attitude towards you. He answers all the questions you have about this person. This can be used in business negotiations, recruitment, and personal relationships. To save time and energy by not wasting it on someone who can cause emotional damage and not get the desired results.
Emotionlessness
The world has entered the era of artificial intelligence. Most robots, unless they are programmed to compete with competitors and are a political tool, have no emotions. The purpose of the robot program is to guide you on the way to solving pre-designed issues, without allowing any comments. The generated texts explain and give instructions without emotional coloration and without reference to the personal. Therefore, if you observe emotionless, concrete communication aimed at guiding you to the result, the probability of a bot is high. In addition, this is how fraudsters act to obtain your personal data under the guise of a bot. Be careful when communicating both emotionlessly and emotionally! Watch out for the expressions and mistakes that always occur, and try to immediately identify the shades of dialogues, the accents of communication used by the opponent, and most importantly, their ultimate goal.
These are just a few generalized examples that answer the question:
– How can I protect myself on social media from malicious intent?
– How can I recognize a lie just from a text message in a chat?
– What should you pay attention to when you receive a question or any information from an unfamiliar opponent?
– How can you feel the true mood of the person writing?
